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Do you ever find it hard to say no? Does it depend on the circumstances? Explain. Have you ever found yourself agreeing to something you really didn't want to do? Why do you think you did or didn't?
Under what circumstances is it easy to talk you into something? Under what circumstances is it impossible to do so?
I never really find it hard to say no. I’m pretty straight forward with the way I believe things should be done. The situation I’m in doesn’t really matter either. If someone suggest that we get drunk then drive around, I wouldn’t comply. I probably wouldn’t even be drunk to begin with. Like I said, its hard to convince me to do something that my brain is telling me not to do. I’ve never really been pressured into doing something and I believe its because I have strong sense of character. I act as myself with minimal care of what people think about me. Some people go out of their way to point out that I am my own person and I don’t mind hearing that. I respect them and they respect me. Its difficult to get me to say yes if the situation involves my health, safety and criminal record. Plus, I am subject to randomized drug tests anyway but not for any negative reason. Its easy to say no, just stand up for yourself, don’t be a lil bitch.
ReplyDeleteDuring volleyball season I was more than stressed out. I was applying to colleges, practicing every day after school, and just beginning my senior year. I am apart of the GAA (girls athletic association) and I love helping out with the club. One night while doing homework I received a text from the club advisor asking for someone to pick up some paint for the American flag for 9/11 we were making. She asked us to get enough paint for about the whole school. After about 10 minutes, no one had answered in the group chat. Before my brain could even think of what to say my thumbs had already typed “Yea sure I can get the paint tomorrow!”. Ugh. I hate when I do that. I knew that I had a lot of homework that week, I was finishing my apps, and I had a game on that day. But of course, I just can never say no. When the time came to get the paint I had no ride to get it and tried to see if one of the other members could pick some up. Of course they said no and continued to tell me about how it was my responsibility and how I have to get it. So, I made my brother go out and buy the paint at around 10pm while I cried over how stressed and stupid I was. Moral of the story is, it’s so hard for me to say no. I always find myself raising my hand volunteering for things and automatically saying yes to things I definitely don’t want to do. I just feel that if I don’t do something then it will never get done. If I didn’t volunteer to get the paint, no one would have done it. It wasn’t until recently that I have been starting to decline things or say no. For example, I hadn’t seen my boyfriend in about a week when my coach asked me to come to the Oakcrest orientation and help out. I actually said I couldn’t because I had made the plans with Jordan, but I felt so guilty. I remember asking Jordan if I was being mean and if I should just go because they probably need me. I even thought that my coach was going to get mad at me the next day and it was like he didn’t even notice. I also agreed to a babysitting job recently for 6 hours and I didn’t want to do it at all. Why do I do this? I guess because I hate letting people down. My biggest pet peeve is unreliable people who say they will do something and never do. I would hate letting people down like that and when I do, it eats away at me all day. It is very easy to talk me into doing something and almost impossible not to. I feel like I only say no to doing things if I already have plans and know it would be impossible for me to accomplish.
ReplyDeleteI love aiding other people. I manage two sports, am a FTP ambassador, and am always there when a teacher needs something done. I agree to do jobs at the drop of a pin that randomly need to be finished before the end of the day and never get anything from my many odd jobs. That’s fine and all but when it comes time to do different things and be important around the school and I get handed the short end of the stick is when I get upset. I never say no even if I have homework and a project due that day I’ll always be there to get the job done and I know that if I knew some of the things that were going to happen this year I wouldn’t have put myself in the position to be a yes man. It’s expected of me at this point and it’ll be okay and at the end of the day I know I did it to myself. When it comes to dangerous things or anything that could hurt me, a person, or an animal, I am the first to disapprove and stifle the situation. When the yes coincides with my morals, I have no problem putting my foot down. Talking me into something is possible because I like to make people happy but when it goes against what I believe in I never sway.
ReplyDeleteNot too long ago the NHS was making PB&J sandwiches for Atlantic City's Rescue Mission. While making the sandwiches Mr.Seamen made an announcement asking if someone could help them deliver the sandwiches because their cars were too small. Nobody responded, we were all just looking at each other waiting for someone to step and say they would. And of course, that someone was me. I didn't really want to do it but I felt as if I didn't volunteer than nobody would. It was the longest night of my life waiting for my ride to come all the way from Neumann University which is in Pennsylvania then hauling 13 boxes of 1,008 sandwiches to her little toyota camry. The boxes barely fit and I kept thinking to myself "why did I do this to myself". By the time we hauled all the boxes to the car it was too late so I had to deliver them the next day. But it didn't run that smoothly, we had to transfer the 13 boxes from the camry to my cousins house and then to my moms car once she came to pick me up. It was the struggle. I couldn't say no, I just couldn't. Almost every circumstance is easy to talk me into something unless it goes against my personal beliefs, or I really just don't want to do it. I don't give into peer pressure so that's one thing I can't easily be talked into. But it all depends on the circumstance. I think it's just because I'm too nice of a person, I feel bad saying no, so most of the time I just say yes, even if I really want to say no. Having a good heart is both a blessing and a curse.
ReplyDeleteAlthough it is not very hard for me to say no in certain situations, I find myself saying yes to many that I don't want to be a part of. I think it is just an impulse reaction when I'm in the moment because I hate when people let me down so I try my best to not let others down. Being that I was let down in many situations in my life I know how it feels and can empathize for many in that situation. I guess it's just the reaction you get upon saying no, the face a person makes can leave you feeling guilty although you did nothing wrong. I've agreed to many things that I didn't want to, some turned out bad and some good. But it's not the outcome that matters, it's the fact that I didn't want to be a part of it in the first place. It is easy to talk me into something in most cases, this is especially the case if the relationship with you is a good one. But it is also impossible to get me to do something I don't agree with. That being said even the bad things I did without wanting to was something I agreed with to an extent, whether that be a great extent or minuscule I still agreed with it.
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ReplyDeleteI don't find it hard to say no. In certain situations, it is though. Depends on what it is. If it's any situation that tampers with my level of self respect and standards, I won't take part in it. Especially if it's like a group, peer pressure thing. I have better things to do than to follow a crowd or what everyone else is doing. In other situations, I find myself saying yes even if I didn't want to do it. This is always when helping someone out. I love to help people, but at a certain extent. It's annoying to constantly keep helping someone over and over, but I do it out of the kindness of my heart. Sometimes it's easy to talk me into something, sometimes it isn't. It usually has to be money involved though because I probably wouldn't even be interested in it. It just all depends on if it causes me to lower my standards.
Unfortunately I have a very hard time saying no. Depending on the situation of course but most times people take advantage of me and ask me to do things because they know I wont say no. I always have to help people and do things for people for two reasons. 1) There's just something in me that wont let me tell people that need "help" no. 2) Ill feel better if I can do things myself so I know they’ll get done right. The biggest deciding factor of whether I am going to do something or not is the person asking me to do said thing. Whenever this boy (cough cough you know who im referring to) would ask me to do something or "needed" my "help" I would do it without any second thought. This is also the same person I chose in the beginning of the year to be the most persuasive person I know. The way he talks and the confidence he has in everything made me want to do the things he asked me to do. Said boy always described me as having this "blind faith" in him which is why I know he took advantage of me on multiple occasions. Which brings me to my next point, I trust people too easily. If someone is asking me to do something that I feel as though may harm me with a bit of convincing I usually do it because I trust that this person wont let anything happen to me. I always want to believe that everyone has my best interest at heart (even though they usually don’t) and that’s why I have a hard time saying no. I don’t want to let anyone down, or make anyone feel left out so ill do what they ask me to.
ReplyDeleteI understand that everything I just wrote probably worried you greatly but most of the things I was talking about were not life threatening. I am smart enough to know what is right and wrong and I have more common sense than you may think, I make good decisions. I promise. Most of the things I previously talked about could also be described as peer pressure. Like drinking, smoking, skipping school. But, if someone is asking me to do something awful then I can say no. I would never harm anyone or anything and I would never do anything to endanger myself or others. I do get talked into things very easily but I can usually talk myself out of them as well. At the end of the day I believe that I am the reason for everything I do even if there is a little peer pressure involved so I cant really blame anyone for anything I've done because I let myself do said things and that’s my own fault. That boy always wanted me to stay over for a few nights in a row and go places I knew I wasn’t allowed to and always just told me to tell my mom I was somewhere else and I never really wanted to lie to my mom but I couldn’t get myself to tell this boy no. So, yes I have found myself doing things I didn’t really want to do an unimaginable amount of times.
I am getting a lot better with telling people no though because I am trying really, REALLY hard at only doing things I know will benefit me. And I am working at putting myself before others so I think soon I'll be able to have a different answer for this blog very soon.
I find it incredibly difficult for myself to say no. I agree with things I shouldn't agree with and I let people do things that they really shouldn't do. But it all depends on my comfort with that person. Lately I've had an easier time saying no to people, or debating issues with people more so than before. I can be very honest with people if I think that they can handle that honesty. I hate the fact that I'll put myself in a very uncomfortable position to satisfy others but I'm proud to say that I have gotten better at saying no and not feeling bad about saying no. I realize that my own emotions come first because in the end, I'll only ever feel my own pain and my own happiness. Sure I can sympathize with others, but my emotions negate others. This one time, my drunk twenty two year old co worker texted me asking if I would go on a date with him. I said yes, because I didnt want to be mean and say no. When he sobered up the next day I realized I sure as fuck didnt want to go anywhere with this creep and there was no way in hell I was gonna put myself in that position just so I could regret it. Or worse, have something bad come of it. I told that weirdo no and it felt great to say no and I was so proud of myself for saying no. I'll most likely say yes to a person if I'm intimidated by them. if they hold any position of power over me then I'll say yes. However if I think that saying yes will put me in an very uncomfortable position, a position I'll regret being in, I will always say no. To conclude this, I'm just very proud of where Ive come as a person. I feel that I am less afraid to assert myself and speak out against the general consensuses. I apologetically say no and I know what I want.
ReplyDeleteI don't really find it hard to say no. If I need to say no I just say no. Now I'm not saying that the ending result will always be me saying no because I do sometimes feel sympathy and agree to something I didn't want to do in the first place. If some of my friends want to go out on a Friday night and I don't really like going out I'll just say no 9 times out of ten the one time I change my mind is time where I decide to change my mind because I'm bored not because I feel bad saying no. I say yes more for myself more than for the person i'm saying yes to. I have found myself agreeing to something I really didn't want to do in the first place but who hasn't. I did it because it's human nature to think for someone else before yourself every once in awhile, it was a split second decision. It is easy to talk to me into something that is fun,beneficial, or just simply positive and doesn't have a negative outcome. It impossible to talk me into something that gets locked up or dead. Saying no first starts with your family. The first time that you will ever say no it will probably be to your parents and everything after is a little bit easier but of course depending the situation.
ReplyDeleteFor anyone who knows me, you would know that I have an undying love and need to help those around me. I am involved in so much that I often find that I'm spreading myself extremely thin and pack on a ridiculous amount of stress and anxiety. It was the tail end of football season, which means powderpuff, pep rally, and the thanksgiving day game. However, if you're a senior, that also means deadlines are coming up quicker than ever for college applications. I was asked to help coach the powderpuff cheerleaders and of course I said yes. On top of that, I had a dozen college applications to complete and had yet to have written my common application essay. Then, I was asked by my coach to organize a time and find every cheerleader to rehearse for the upcoming pep rally. So, I said of course. After all I was a captain and I didn't want to look like crap during the pep rally. Finally, I was asked by my fellow cheer captain to make a break away banner for the game, because she was tired and just didn't have time. What did I say? "yea sure, no problem! I got it!" I found myself practically in tears due to stress and couldn't believe that I had agreed to all of this work. I had agreed because I knew that if I didn't do something, no one would have stepped up to the plate. I have a fear of letting people down, and due to this I am easily swayed to do things I don't exactly want to do. It doesn't take much to get me to do something for people but I very rarely say no. I would only say no if 1) there was no way I could get it done and do a good job and 2) my parents told me absolutely not.
ReplyDeleteI never find it hard to say no I keep it 100 at all times. It doesn't matter what situation I'm in either. If I don't like the idea of something or what the person is trying to do I'm not going to agree with it. No i never find myself agreeing to something I didn't want to do because I get annoyed fast and I don't want to do it I'll just make up a lie and say I'm busy or something. I do because sometimes I don't wanna be bother and just want be left alone. It is easy to talk me into doing something when I'm hungry lol. I love food and if u say you'll get me food I'm done to do whatever you want. It's is impossible to talk me into doing something when I'm mad and don't want to hear anybody voice. Also when I'm playing 2k I don't even answer the phone .
ReplyDeleteI found it hard to say no for charity or friendly types of requests. A good example is when someone asks me for a ride to go somewhere, especially if they are my friends, I would most likely say yes because I never am that person that likes to leave someone behind if they don't have a clue to get from destination A to destination B, no one wants to be stranded in one location. Same if i am in on of my friends house and they ask me to complete a task I would say yes to the task. some people think is that i can be pushed over easily, which could be the case, but I always feel like I’m expected to help because it will make me the bigger man to comply to not being a selfish individual. I usually act this way if the person who requested my help is my friend though. Don’t get me wrong i like helping strangers but I will have the mind set in that they won't appreciate as much as my friends would. I can determine if the help that is needed is appropriate too. If the task that i got to do was like to jump off a bridge with my friends i will never do it, I don’t understand why people use this expression if something will cause death people will usually not do it. If I agreed to do something i already know that it won't harm me, unless it harms me or annoys me in some way, I will perform to my best abilities.
ReplyDeleteSaying no. Easy concept, but sometimes hard to do. When put in a situation that I may not be comfortable with it is sometimes hard to say no, especially if it involves someone I consider a close friend or important part of my life. Saying no can often lead to the disappointment and feelings of guilt, even if I know that in my heart it truly isn't something that i want to do. Now let me provide some clarification, when put in a situation that I know that it is absolutely wrong for me to do I have no problem saying no, putting my life in danger or jeopardizing my future have never been on my agenda. But sneaking out to hang out at 1 in the morning or not being 100% honest with my parents when it comes to my plans for the evening, that's a different story. I guess you could say it depends on the situation for me, sometimes when I've said yes and in the back of my mind I was contemplating no have turned out to be some the best times of my life. For example back in the summer me and my friends went to a party, now initially my plan was to stay home, I really didn't want to go in the first place but not wanting to disappoint my friends I tagged along. When the plans were first made my immediate response was no, I told them I didn't really feel like going out that night but I was eventually talked into it and off we went. Now usually I am always honest with my parents about where i go and who I'm with but this night I had to stretch the truth a little. Despite my feelings of guilt I had a really fun time that night , safe to say the best of all my party nights and all because I was talked into going. I believe that sometimes we have to be talked into certain situations that we might not venture to on our own without a little nudge of “ encouragement” now sneaking out to a party is hardly an achievement but it is along the same lines. Had I said no I would have never went out and had the night a of life time with all my friends and I wouldn't be apart of all the memories that were made that night. However I do believe that saying no is an important ability to have, being able to stand up for yourself and go against the crowd is something that not many people feel comfortable doing. Sometimes it is hard to say no because you feel like you might end up all alone but I believe you should always try to do what feels right in your heart.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I find it hard to say no because I hate disappointing people. For instance, if a friend asks me to cover their shift at work I often do it because I know how it feels to want off but no one will cover for myself. Lately though I have realized that the favor is never returned. I’ll be in a jam and ask one of my coworkers to cover my shift and it seems like they are always too busy to help me out when i need it. Ultimately, now I have found the strength to tell those who don’t care about me no. It comes down to the circumstance because if someone who I know doesn’t really care about me is asking for help i’ll say no. However, if I know the person would do the same for me then I’ll have a harder time saying no and I’ll actually want to help them. In the end, I love helping people and will do anything to make it easier for someone.
ReplyDeleteI don't find it hard to say no at all. I am very strong minded and once i make up my mind that's it. NO one can convince me to do anything I personally don't feel comfortable doing. That's just me. I'm not easily persuaded. Like one time some people tried to get me to sneak out. I would never!!!!! They pleaded with me for hours to convince me to change my mind but I wouldn't budge. My "no" game is too strong. If I don't want to do something i bet my bottom dollar i won't.
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